In The News

Today, as I reflect on life, I look back at you with deep affection. You are radiant—full of youth, innocence and energy. I wish I had truly understood your worth then, and so I write to you with the wisdom of experience, to offer guidance and reassurance. Life will present many challenges—some minor, others profoundly difficult. But you will face each one with courage, resilience, and unwavering faith in God. With every hurdle overcome, you will grow stronger.

Growing up as the eldest of five children, I had the honour of being raised by a woman who never let us see the weight of the world on her shoulders. My mother – the kindest, bubbliest soul – was a warm, joyful presence who carried our family with laughter and love, no matter what challenges came her way. Her grace and gentleness shaped who I am today. She was my first example of strength. But in 2008, I was introduced to a new kind of strength – the kind that is born in suffering, forged in faith and sustained by divine purpose.

The title of this piece may initially suggest a negative or melancholy tone. So, what does the title “Learn to Suffer Well” mean exactly? I’m going to give you context in a minute, but first, I want to set the premise of this piece. It’s written to give the reader hope. This writing reflects the “Then and Now” in a specific chapter of my life – a chapter I think I’m ready to face head-on.

Father’s Day is wonderfully complicated. For some, it’s a day of braais, hugs and gratitude for the unique love of a present Dad. For others, it cracks open an ache they work hard to keep shut – memories of a father who was distant, harsh, absent, even violent. The reality of never having had a father – the gaping hole seeming extra deep and painful. Still, others feel caught in between: thankful for a good father, yet aware of his humanity and limitations.